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I originally sought books to help me get over a man in my life that is still IN my life, but not committed to me. We are the classic "friends with benefits" only he's benefiting more than I am...much more. This book has reinforced in a HUGE way what I already knew but chose to ignore. It teaches us how change IS scary...even if it's healthy change. It's scary because it's what we become to know and feel comfortable with after awhile. It reaches deep into the psyche and shows why we stay in relationships that aren't so healthy. It connects us to our childhood, but not in a crutching sort of manner like some readings which "blame" our current choices all on childhood incidences, but rather shows us why we possibly make some of the decisions that we do.

You won't be disappointed in this book. I had to force myself to put it down and sleep. I read it in two days. I underlined SO many sections that applied to me. This book is a lifetime keeper!!! Get one for you or someone close to you if you feel they need to make some changes in the way they choose relationships in their lives. You (or them) will be happy you did!!!

One warning...It's very truthful. Sometimes when you hear something you dont like, it can have a profound effect. I cried reading this book several times because it talked about my life...my thought processes and my feelings when choosing and staying with a partner.

I highly recommend this book to every person - regardless of age, sex, or relationship status. This is a book that you will read, underline and write in, turn down corners, and use - in your OWN DAILY LIFE. I have certainly done all of this. In addition, I have purchased books for all my children and several friends. This book is a keeper!

David Richo is an author whose writing clarifies exactly what being a "grown up" consists of. He gives specific examples which help us to see ourselves and others more clearly and kindly. We can learn to better appreciate and accept our self and others, give and ask for affection, attend to others more fully and ask for their attention in a way that they can hear us, and live according to our deepest desires while allowing others to do the same. This is far more than a "how to" book, however.

This book gives us the tools to see ourselves as we really are, as well as how others see us. We receive specific recommendations for making the changes we want in ourselves, which fosters change in all of our relationships.

Mostly, this is a book of uplifting and enlightening and very specific information which guides us gently in our quest to live life to the fullest. Living the best possible life in the practical and spiritual sense shown in Richo's writings has the potential to change the world - one person at a time.

I bought this book in the midst of confusion as to wether I was going to get married or break off a relationship with a particular person. I am a psychologist and a lover, and an avid reader of self-help and vampire books

A long time ago a friend of mine said to me "BE TRUE TO YOURSELF". Mr. Richo does just that. Feelings of validity and recognition of personal pain flow from this book as you read it and it becomes part of you. This book helped me to make so many decisions and also helped me to gain a lot more self-esteem by making me realize what was happening right in front of my eyes.

I tabbed, underlined, highlighted and starred so many pages, I had friends read shapters to help them with their relationships, and it is amazing the kind of feedback this book gets. Do yourself a favor and check this one out. Pick the parts that you need to read first, and you will gain all that you know withought ever having to read through an introduction or a foward first. The table of contents is thorough and all of your issues are right in front of you. An amazing tool, a great gift, a life-long partner, a second bible.