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I have recently completed reading the book by Mr. Seidenberg...it's right on the money. But one must wonder, why more people don't know about the destructive and corrosive nature of the Divorce Industry. I also liked "A Family Divided", by Robert Mendelson, which is a 450 page case study of one man in the Pittsburgh area and his experiences, a man who has reportedly now spent over $500,000 and is yet estranged from his daughter, through the "help" of divorce professionals. It is my understanding that in the case of the Pittsburgh man, it was established that 3 separate professionals practicing psychology / family "therapy" were all believed by the author to be violating professional and appropriate American Psychological Association professional guidelines... Where is the professional oversight, where is the Judicial Review Committees and the American Psychological Association?.. lots of questions and few answers.

One very troubling chart in Mr. Seidenberg seems to say it all... in his jurisdiction, a County in Virginia, it appears that no father was ever awarded sole legal or shared primary physical custody in a contested case for over 1 1/2 years... no policeman, no fireman, NO MAN who even took up arms to defend our great country...ever was awarded custody of his children. Where is the Equal Rights Amendment, the caring civil rights lawyers, the NOW, which used to stand for social justice and equality?... have the liberal and caring institutions which used to stand for for basic justice dropped out of these kinds of issues? The question is almost unanswerable... where is the press?.. have men now been reduced to the welfare department for women and children of divorce, rather than social agencies of the Government.

Very thought provoking!

This is one of the best books I've found on divorce and/or custody issues. It is easy enough to read for the novice, yet is packed with information to be valuable to an expert. Get this book and read it, take notes, study it, and then file for your divorce. It will be some of the best money you will spend.

Having read this, and experienced a fierce ongoing visitation battle, I can say this is all true. My experience has been with the gender-biased court of Washington County in Minnesota. My daughter's mother pulled all these tricks and in hindsight, I can see that she only wanted me to father a child, but not have any important role in our daughter's life. As any Minnesota attorney will tell you, a women is NEVER chastised for perjury in Washington County. It's not even addressed.
In 1993, I went Pro Se to be adjudicated after our daughter was born. My daughter's mother never wanted to get married. Although I couldn't afford an attorney, and didn't know the law, I asked for joint legal and physical custody, and the female court-appointed mediator stated rather blithely that "joint physical and legal custody don't mean anything." Of course, my ex made all sorts of false allegations to get me out of our daughter's life.
I have taken her to court for denial of visitation five times in ten years, plus the many times I have attempted mediation -- which she would make an excuse not to show up for. I can say that the judge always made me pay her attorney fees -- although I cannot afford one myself. Instead of looking me in the eye, the judge always "takes these matters into advisement."
Although the court is only allowed to take more than %25 of my net for child support, I pay more than that, plus medical expenses. Not to mention that almost all of the court social workers are female with a large chip on their shoulders.
I have read other books on this subject, talked to several attorneys, been to men's support groups,etc. I could go on, but I'm sure you get the picture. No would-be father knows this until he has been put through the mill by both the gender-biased court and his child's mother. In our society, fathers are disposible. We are considered a wallet and a spermbank -- nothing else.